About Me

The Get To Know Me Tag

A month or so ago I was nominated for the Getting To Know Me tag by the blog Discovering Your Happiness. I had never gotten around to responding to this nomination because of school, but am using tonight’s free time to post.

Below, I will provide answers that hopefully help all of my readers to get to know me better. If there are things you want to know about me that aren’t in this post or you want to talk about some of my answers, feel free to contact me.

I am going to be 100% honest in my answers and hope you enjoy!

• What are my strengths?

– Open-minded

– Intuitive

– Determined

– Loyal

• What are my short term goals?

– Eat better

– Read for fun more often

– Keep up with blogging

• What are my long term goals?

– Masters in Psych with minor in Soc

– Rescue more animals

– Pursue more passions (photography, fitness, journalism)

– Save money

• Who matters the most to me?

– Family, boyfriend, animals, close friends, Obama

• What am I ashamed of?

– All of the times I let pride get in the way of being the bigger person

– That I once let others create my self image

• What do I like to do for fun?

– Exercise

– Clean

– Hangout with loved ones

– Bond with my pets

– Listen to/dance to music

– Make art

• What new activities am I willing to try?

– Difficult hikes

– New food

– Mud run

– Drifting (my boyfriend plans to be a pro)

• What am I worried about?

– Things I can’t control

• What are my values?

– Honesty

– Respect

– Thoughtfulness

– Inspiration

– Health

– Well-being

• If I had one wish, it would be…?

– To make loved ones (friends, family, pets, etc.) live forever

• Where do I feel safest?

– With my mom, boyfriend, or dogs

• What or who gives me comfort?

– Boyfriend

– Mom

– Pets (2 dogs, 1 cat, 1 snake)

– Music

– Sleep

– Fitness

– Friends

– Therapist

• If I was afraid, I would…?

– Hide it, thus making the feeling worse

• What is my proudest accomplishment?

– Leaving my rocky past behind, pushing through my mental illness, and succeeding in college and the job field

• Am I a night owl or an early bird?

– Depends on what I have to do that day or what I did the day before; I usually get up by 7:30 and fall asleep by 11

• What does my inner critic tell me?

– To pity myself

– That I pity myself too much

– That I’m ugly

– That I have no right to think I’m ugly

(As you can see, she’s complicated)

• What do I do to show myself self-care?

– Cancel plans when I need to

– Treat myself to food when I am craving it

– Stay up with hygiene

– Let myself cry or scream it out

– Make sure I acknowledge all emotions

• Am I an introvert or extrovert?

– An introvert who can be an extrovert in the right situation

• What am I passionate about?

– The rights of all species, genders, sexualities, ethnicities, ages, and any other type of category

• What do my dreams tell me?

– That I’m stressed

– That I need to let go

• What is my favorite non-fiction book?

– Consilience

• What is my favorite fiction book?

– The Ramayana

• What is my favorite movie?

– Grease

• What is my favorite band?

– The Offspring or System of A Down

• What is my favorite food?

– Enchiladas

• What is my favorite color?

– Purple

• What am I grateful for?

– My family

– My true friends

– Animals

– Food

– Music

– Science

• When I’m feeling down, I like to…

– Shower

– Face mask

– Music or Netflix

– Cuddle my dogs

– Talk to my mom

– Go for a walk

– Make art

• I know I am stressed when…

– I lose motivation

– I procrastinate

– I randomly want to cry

Like I said, I hope this posts gives better insight into parts of my life I maybe don’t talk about as much or at all on here.

We’re all unique and I always liked learning about different people, maybe because of my life long interest in human behavior. I’m thankful for this opportunity to put myself out there and hope to do more things like this.

Again, any more questions, feel free to message/comment/email!

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Interviewing With Anxiety

When it comes to things like interviews, most people tend to get nervous as you have to answer questions about yourself in front of a stranger. Attending an interview with an anxiety disorder is these common nerves, but on the next level.

I typically find myself thinking things like “I’m going to mess up” or “I shouldn’t even do this” when I’m prepping/waiting for the meeting itself. These negative thoughts only help to increase that anxiety, which could end up resulting in self sabotage.

Recently, I’ve had three different interviews for jobs and I decided to pay attention to the things I do to help me prep. By trying to reduce my nerves at the same time as increasing my confidence, I had came out of each meeting feeling successful. I did this by:

Reviewing my cover letter, resume, application, and job listing to ensure I had my qualifications, the job requirements, and everything else fresh in my mind. It made me feel more ready to answer (and ask) questions. I also found that I become even more nervous when I over prep by practicing a bunch of questions/scenarios.

– Give yourself more than enough time to get ready and get to be interview. I just find it helpful to be relaxed, not rushed, directly before.

– Wear something you feel comfortable and confident in. This will show in your body language and facial expressions and adds to your first impression.

Smile. This also is key in initial impressions as it gives a hint of your personality. Friendliness is something desired by almost all employers.

Ask questions too. Just because you’re the future employee doesn’t mean you should be the only one answering questions. Yes, you need to be a good fit for the company, but they also need to be a good fit for you. It’s also useful to know anything that’s unclear to you so you can make an informed decision later in the process.

Remember that interviewers know how intimidating and nerve wracking answering questions about yourself is. Being nervous or showing signs of nervousness is not the end of the world, it’s only natural. True employers take this into account, and only focus on your qualities and skills in regards to desired ones.

Breathe. This is a simple one, but it’s the most useful. When you’ve done everything above (and maybe more) but you still are jittery, take slow, deep breaths. This slows your heart rate and can help you to think more logically about your stress. This can be done whenever you start thinking about the interview, all the way up to two minutes before they call you in.

Furthermore, yes you’re going to be nervous. But that doesn’t have to define your interview. Small steps, like the ones above, can help you begin to get used to interviewing and social interactions in a way that’s less daunting.

No, I don’t like talking to strangers or answering questions about my strengths or weaknesses. But that part is bearable when I think about how much I can offer as an individual.

As I’ve said before, you can’t let your anxiety control you but you can learn to better manage it. Simple calming, centering, or focusing techniques can do a world of wonders during an anxiety attack. They can also help in preventing one during, or leading up to important occasions.

Go in there and remember to be you. That’s all there is to do really. If you don’t get hired, that’s okay. It was good practice, and there are always more opportunities out there.

Interviews suck, but they’re a large part of adult life and something people have to work towards before they feel even close to comfortable.

Mental Health/Wellbeing

Genuine Connection Is Essential

I’m sure we’ve all had friendships where the sole basis is because we had a class with, or worked with, or lived next door to and nothing truly person. While these relations do provide benefits, you also deny yourself of establishing a true human connection.

Sure, it’s alright to have a few acquaintances from whom you benefit and vice versa, but it’s crucial to also create strong bonds with people.

Everyone knows that personalities are different and have a major role in successful relationships. It’s healthy to try to be friends with people you normally wouldn’t hangout with, but it’s even healthier when you know where to end the friendship if it’s not what you want.

There’s no point in continuing on with someone whom you don’t relate to, enjoy being around, or trust. This goes for both romantic relationships and platonic friendship.

Old friends as well as newer friends have of course taken me a while to get comfortable with, but I did it. I slowly worked on building up my own trust as well as there’s and I can honestly say I trust all of them with my whole heart.

It’s the same way with my boyfriend. I fully trust him, confide in him, and express myself to him. I’m thankful everyday I get to spend my time with him and grow with him.

As for those that are no longer in my life, I found that my personality or goals for myself no longer matched up with their’s. It’s okay to let people go in order for yourself to grow. Find people who are your sunshine.

Especially when you battle with mental health issues, finding people who can make you feel safe, relaxed, and loves is a must. You don’t have to go through whatever it is alone. There are people out there that will care about you, help you, and give you their time.

Once you have found the beautiful humans that you click with, do everything you can to maintain a healthy relationship.

Mental Health/Wellbeing

Physical Ailments Alongside Mental Ones

As you all know by now, I battle both depression and anxiety on a day-to-day basis. One thing you may not know is that I also have both severe asthma and allergies and have for my entire life. Some may think that physical illness/health has nothing or very little do with mental health, but that’s not true.

When my allergies bog me down physically, it heightens my mental illness. I’m more anxious and sluggish than normal because I’m worried about missing school or work due to feeling bad, or just simply not being able to do normal things. This is when I’m most likely to procrastinate and sleep or isolate myself; this in turn only worsens the anxiety later on.

Not being able to breath very well because of asthma induces anxiety attacks and other symptoms of the sort. It also brings out more intense depression manifestations as I reflect on my poor health.

If you have both physical and cognitive issues that influence your daily activities, it is wise to educate yourself on whether or not the two could be related and feeding off of each other. This may not always be the case, but if it is, this realization could open tons of doors for tackling two problems at once. For example, my asthma of course causes difficulty breathing, which then produces anxiety. I’ve learned that both meditation and simple breathing exercises can effectively help me reduce both of these matters.

Another thing to think about here is any medications you take and their potential side effects. While it is common knowledge that not everyone who takes a specific prescription will experience all, or even any, possible side effects, it is still worth the research.

Recently, I discovered that the numerous prescriptions I take to combat my asthma and allergies all have the ability to INCREASE both anxiety disorders and depression. Therefore, I am currently working with a pharmacist to go through the actual probability that this is happening to me, or if my mental illness is completely separate from my medications. I will give more information on this at a later date.

Side effects are listed for a medication when ANY of the subjects in the medicine’s trial period experience them, even if it’s only one person. Don’t just assume your medication is the sole reason for your symptom(s), talk to a doctor or pharmacist instead as they’ll be more likely to be able to help pin point the real source.

Your mental and physical health always go hand in hand. Just like exercise can cause euphoria, ensuring your mental well being can have tremendous results on your body. The two are a team here and it is important to focus on improving both, not just one.

“Physical strength will get you to the start line, but mental strength will get you to the finish line.” 29386140_10214480747966179_4511950568588864687_n