Fitness, Uncategorized

The Importance of Mentors (My Experience)

Today, as I began to prepare for my new position as an online writing mentor for online English classes at my university, I remembered an important person that inspired me and provided guidance.

My neighbor down the block used to be a a competition body builder, though she didn’t even start this fitness journey until she was in her adult years. She then began working as a rehab physical therapist until she got ready to move. During this prep time, she ended up selling me a lot of her home equipment at really good prices simply because she said she believed in me and my fitness journey.

She knew I wasn’t particularly interested in competition prep, but also that I had a passion for exercise and healthy living. Pointers were provided left and right, she corrected my form on a few different lifts, and just made me feel ready to actually go after my goals.

Mentors don’t always have to be famous, rich, family, or whatever other guidelines society has attached to the term. A mentor is someone who guides you in the right direction so you can reach the end goal yourself. They show you possibilities and instill something as simple as hope.

This may sound cheesy considering my job made me think of this short relationship, but I believe any type of influence you have on a other person is important. Whether it be an academic influence, romantic influence, etc., your actions and words do matter.

I have always fluctuated with my workout patterns. I didn’t have a lot of equipment to work with and lacked motivation to go to the gym. Being able to purchase workout equipment in good condition at affordable prices totally changed the game for me. Now I couldn’t have excuses.

My neighbor opened this door for me, and through kind words of encouragement and a few instances of helpful criticism, convinced me to go on this journey open minded. I thank her for this, even if I haven’t gotten the chance to thank her personally.

Role models can be anyone and can impact multiple areas of your life. I suggest finding one who truly inspires you, makes you feel good about yourself, and shows that goals are obtainable.

I am now taking this experience and plan to incorporate it into my semester writing mentor job. Writing isn’t for everyone so I will therefore be pushing a lot of people who were just like me when starting out with fitness, worried, lost, and doubtful.

Support is always important. Feeling valid is a need. Having your own feelings acknowledged is relieving. Form meaningful bonds and connections with those who lift you up to your aspirations rather than pull you away from.

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Social Media Absence

Hello everyone, I apologize for me being MIA more recently. I am working part time and taking an online class, as well as doing some fun things for summer, and helping my mom around the house. I have missed blogging, and am excited to hopefully be back as I’ve created a schedule for myself.

On the other hand, not logging on to Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, or even here, felt refreshing. For once, my full focus was on my own life and those closest to me instead of on complete strangers who I sometimes find myself comparing myself to. Therefore, I have decided that I will not be as active social media wise as I was before. This does not mean that I care any less about my journey or encouraging/inspiring others to start their own, but more that this is what need to better my mentality even more.

I encourage anyone who finds themselves constantly refreshing apps or social media sites out of boredom, depression, anxiety, etc. to take a break.  This doesn’t mean immediately avoid going on anything; it means to take small steps to minimizing this technology time. I started with the elimination of phone time in the middle of sleepless nights or right when I am getting up for the day. Yes, sometimes I slip up but that’s okay because this is a process.

However you specifically need to decrease the time you spend online in your life is up to you just as the reasons behind the decision to do so is. Personally, depression and anxiety lead to boredom or the shutting down of my motivation and I therefore result to social media which only makes me feel worse. I have noticed changes this week in my happiness levels and how long the highest ones last; they’ve improved as I removed social media time from parts of my days.

Remember, it’s always important to do what you need to do to feel your best. This means ignoring the social norms around you if they make your feelings feel wrong in any way. All emotions are valid. Everybody deals with things and is effected by situations in various ways. If you are going to take a social media break, I suggest you do it for yourself.

Again, I am not disappearing again. I am going to post regularly, just not as often as before. Having a busy life is okay and it is so important you effectively manage your energy and emotional levels during times like these. Get to know yourself while actually being able to enjoy the journey. 29173794aefc369a80e13833e8f9b278

About Me

The Get To Know Me Tag

A month or so ago I was nominated for the Getting To Know Me tag by the blog Discovering Your Happiness. I had never gotten around to responding to this nomination because of school, but am using tonight’s free time to post.

Below, I will provide answers that hopefully help all of my readers to get to know me better. If there are things you want to know about me that aren’t in this post or you want to talk about some of my answers, feel free to contact me.

I am going to be 100% honest in my answers and hope you enjoy!

• What are my strengths?

– Open-minded

– Intuitive

– Determined

– Loyal

• What are my short term goals?

– Eat better

– Read for fun more often

– Keep up with blogging

• What are my long term goals?

– Masters in Psych with minor in Soc

– Rescue more animals

– Pursue more passions (photography, fitness, journalism)

– Save money

• Who matters the most to me?

– Family, boyfriend, animals, close friends, Obama

• What am I ashamed of?

– All of the times I let pride get in the way of being the bigger person

– That I once let others create my self image

• What do I like to do for fun?

– Exercise

– Clean

– Hangout with loved ones

– Bond with my pets

– Listen to/dance to music

– Make art

• What new activities am I willing to try?

– Difficult hikes

– New food

– Mud run

– Drifting (my boyfriend plans to be a pro)

• What am I worried about?

– Things I can’t control

• What are my values?

– Honesty

– Respect

– Thoughtfulness

– Inspiration

– Health

– Well-being

• If I had one wish, it would be…?

– To make loved ones (friends, family, pets, etc.) live forever

• Where do I feel safest?

– With my mom, boyfriend, or dogs

• What or who gives me comfort?

– Boyfriend

– Mom

– Pets (2 dogs, 1 cat, 1 snake)

– Music

– Sleep

– Fitness

– Friends

– Therapist

• If I was afraid, I would…?

– Hide it, thus making the feeling worse

• What is my proudest accomplishment?

– Leaving my rocky past behind, pushing through my mental illness, and succeeding in college and the job field

• Am I a night owl or an early bird?

– Depends on what I have to do that day or what I did the day before; I usually get up by 7:30 and fall asleep by 11

• What does my inner critic tell me?

– To pity myself

– That I pity myself too much

– That I’m ugly

– That I have no right to think I’m ugly

(As you can see, she’s complicated)

• What do I do to show myself self-care?

– Cancel plans when I need to

– Treat myself to food when I am craving it

– Stay up with hygiene

– Let myself cry or scream it out

– Make sure I acknowledge all emotions

• Am I an introvert or extrovert?

– An introvert who can be an extrovert in the right situation

• What am I passionate about?

– The rights of all species, genders, sexualities, ethnicities, ages, and any other type of category

• What do my dreams tell me?

– That I’m stressed

– That I need to let go

• What is my favorite non-fiction book?

– Consilience

• What is my favorite fiction book?

– The Ramayana

• What is my favorite movie?

– Grease

• What is my favorite band?

– The Offspring or System of A Down

• What is my favorite food?

– Enchiladas

• What is my favorite color?

– Purple

• What am I grateful for?

– My family

– My true friends

– Animals

– Food

– Music

– Science

• When I’m feeling down, I like to…

– Shower

– Face mask

– Music or Netflix

– Cuddle my dogs

– Talk to my mom

– Go for a walk

– Make art

• I know I am stressed when…

– I lose motivation

– I procrastinate

– I randomly want to cry

Like I said, I hope this posts gives better insight into parts of my life I maybe don’t talk about as much or at all on here.

We’re all unique and I always liked learning about different people, maybe because of my life long interest in human behavior. I’m thankful for this opportunity to put myself out there and hope to do more things like this.

Again, any more questions, feel free to message/comment/email!

Fitness, Mental Health/Wellbeing

Lower Body – May 14th, 2018

I apologize for having disappeared from the blogging world for a few days. Between vacationing in Mexico and going to three day-long trainings for my new job, I had to spend my spare time sleeping and relaxing.

Today, however, is the start of a new week and I came in hot. Got a lot done around the house, workout out, napped, and hung out with my mom; I was in the zone! I definitely realized how bad I had needed rest.

It’s vital to remember to give yourself breaks every now and then. This goes for both mental and physical aspects. Allowing yourself to recharge becomes necessary when you live a modern life that revolves around getting things done and constantly moving.

This week is Mental Health Awareness Week, so I wanted to base my content accordingly. Psychological health is often not given as much attention as it should get due to negative stigmas and stereotypes found in the media. By employers, teachers, family members, and even those with the disorders themselves, mental health can be ignored or repressed out of fear or denial.

Everyday I make sure to fight this cycle as I acknowledge my emotions and energy levels along with my overall physical health. I’ve stated this so many times before, but that’s because it’s not always known that your mental well being directly influences your physical well being.

Making small efforts to better the two simultaneously through things like exercise, reading, meditation, music, or anything else that makes you genuinely happy is progress towards your overall health.

That being said, if you decide to try out my leg day workout or a routine of your own, make it a goal to implement some mental exercise/care into your day as well.

Circuit One: 2 sets (see below for reps)

  • Dead-lifts w/ 2 (15 lb) Hand Weights — 12 reps
  • Stationary Lunges w/ 2 (15 lb) Hand Weights — 10 reps (each side!)
  • Sumo Squat w (20 lb) Hand Weight — 12 reps
  • Clam Shells w (15 lb) Hand Weight — 10 reps (each side!)

Circuit Two: 2 sets (see below for reps)

  • Side Leg Lifts w/ 2 (5 lb) Ankle Weights — 15 reps (each side!)
  • Super Man Leg Lifts w/ 2 (5 lb) Ankle Weights — 8 reps (each side!)
  • Crunches w/ (4 lb) Medicine Ball — 12 reps
  • Elbow-To-Knee Crunches — 12 reps (total!)
  • Ankle Touch — 20 reps (total!)

For cardio, I did 30 minutes on my cycle. I also made sure to stretch to avoid being super sore tomorrow.

Go at your own pace, change the sets/reps/weights when needed, and just make it your own. Throwing in some stretching and meditation would be a really good way to end this little routine out; speaking from experience ;).

Happy Monday and happy first day of Mental Health Awareness Week. Come back to my page or checkout my Instagram, @ereissen19, for more facts and information about mental health.

 

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Mental Health/Wellbeing

Goal Setting As Motivation

When planning ahead for a trip, you may make a list or print out directions in order to ensure a good time. Not only does this get you more excited for the trip, but it helps you to get there in the smoothest way possible. This same process can be used for goal setting.

Goals can be desired end points for a plethora of things from fitness levels, to grades, to finishing a to-do list, to getting a future career. They can be big or small, hold a ton or very little importance. No matter what kind of goal you want to set, having a plan to reach that goal is vital.

Lists, charts, vision boards, Pinterest boards, art, etc. can all be ways to prepare for and pursue your specific goal(s). Some may think making goals out of small things is a waste of time, but I actually find it makes it more likely that I’ll reach that goal. Even if all I wanted to do was get a few loads of laundry done, when I actually do it I feel so successful and confident. This then of course affects other areas of my life in a positive way.

Especially with having anxiety, having goals allows me to properly manage my time and get things done with less stress. I know what I need to do, by when, and then the ‘why’ becomes so much more clear. This is true especially for things I have to get done for school or potential jobs that induce more anxiety. By letting myself see why I need to get it done, I’m actually encouraging myself.

Encouragement is one key to self success in goal setting, but so is the concept of reality. When setting a goal for yourself, you need to remember that you’ll only be let down if your desired turn out is actually impossible. Setting reasonable boundaries will allow you to create realistic and obtainable goals. As you continue to reach your different goals, your confidence will continue to grow.

Being someone who has been insecure many times, building up that initial confidence was hard. Once I got there though, it was like nobody could stop me. Achieving academic and health goals to me is like a high in itself. Knowing I put a healthy amount of pressure on myself and flourished because of it is so rewarding. The human body and brain are capable of so much there’s no sense in ignoring that. Goal setting, planning, and achieving allows you to see your strength in its entirety.

I’m a strong believer in pushing yourself while also staying in tune with your mind and body. We’re all unique individuals and finding tactics that help you get in the groove of life will aid in a more content life.

By laying everything you want to see happen out in front of you, it makes it easier for you to put together the puzzle that eventually gives you the whole picture. Dreaming, while fun, is not a way to make things happen. It’s the first step in progress, but also the most dangerous as you could easily live your whole life there if you don’t start to take charge of your own timeline bit by bitba1dc8d1235f073a71d116324d4c97e9.

P.S. I am also linking a TEDX Talk I really liked. Please take a look if you are interested in goal setting!

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Interviewing With Anxiety

When it comes to things like interviews, most people tend to get nervous as you have to answer questions about yourself in front of a stranger. Attending an interview with an anxiety disorder is these common nerves, but on the next level.

I typically find myself thinking things like “I’m going to mess up” or “I shouldn’t even do this” when I’m prepping/waiting for the meeting itself. These negative thoughts only help to increase that anxiety, which could end up resulting in self sabotage.

Recently, I’ve had three different interviews for jobs and I decided to pay attention to the things I do to help me prep. By trying to reduce my nerves at the same time as increasing my confidence, I had came out of each meeting feeling successful. I did this by:

Reviewing my cover letter, resume, application, and job listing to ensure I had my qualifications, the job requirements, and everything else fresh in my mind. It made me feel more ready to answer (and ask) questions. I also found that I become even more nervous when I over prep by practicing a bunch of questions/scenarios.

– Give yourself more than enough time to get ready and get to be interview. I just find it helpful to be relaxed, not rushed, directly before.

– Wear something you feel comfortable and confident in. This will show in your body language and facial expressions and adds to your first impression.

Smile. This also is key in initial impressions as it gives a hint of your personality. Friendliness is something desired by almost all employers.

Ask questions too. Just because you’re the future employee doesn’t mean you should be the only one answering questions. Yes, you need to be a good fit for the company, but they also need to be a good fit for you. It’s also useful to know anything that’s unclear to you so you can make an informed decision later in the process.

Remember that interviewers know how intimidating and nerve wracking answering questions about yourself is. Being nervous or showing signs of nervousness is not the end of the world, it’s only natural. True employers take this into account, and only focus on your qualities and skills in regards to desired ones.

Breathe. This is a simple one, but it’s the most useful. When you’ve done everything above (and maybe more) but you still are jittery, take slow, deep breaths. This slows your heart rate and can help you to think more logically about your stress. This can be done whenever you start thinking about the interview, all the way up to two minutes before they call you in.

Furthermore, yes you’re going to be nervous. But that doesn’t have to define your interview. Small steps, like the ones above, can help you begin to get used to interviewing and social interactions in a way that’s less daunting.

No, I don’t like talking to strangers or answering questions about my strengths or weaknesses. But that part is bearable when I think about how much I can offer as an individual.

As I’ve said before, you can’t let your anxiety control you but you can learn to better manage it. Simple calming, centering, or focusing techniques can do a world of wonders during an anxiety attack. They can also help in preventing one during, or leading up to important occasions.

Go in there and remember to be you. That’s all there is to do really. If you don’t get hired, that’s okay. It was good practice, and there are always more opportunities out there.

Interviews suck, but they’re a large part of adult life and something people have to work towards before they feel even close to comfortable.

Mental Health/Wellbeing

Genuine Connection Is Essential

I’m sure we’ve all had friendships where the sole basis is because we had a class with, or worked with, or lived next door to and nothing truly person. While these relations do provide benefits, you also deny yourself of establishing a true human connection.

Sure, it’s alright to have a few acquaintances from whom you benefit and vice versa, but it’s crucial to also create strong bonds with people.

Everyone knows that personalities are different and have a major role in successful relationships. It’s healthy to try to be friends with people you normally wouldn’t hangout with, but it’s even healthier when you know where to end the friendship if it’s not what you want.

There’s no point in continuing on with someone whom you don’t relate to, enjoy being around, or trust. This goes for both romantic relationships and platonic friendship.

Old friends as well as newer friends have of course taken me a while to get comfortable with, but I did it. I slowly worked on building up my own trust as well as there’s and I can honestly say I trust all of them with my whole heart.

It’s the same way with my boyfriend. I fully trust him, confide in him, and express myself to him. I’m thankful everyday I get to spend my time with him and grow with him.

As for those that are no longer in my life, I found that my personality or goals for myself no longer matched up with their’s. It’s okay to let people go in order for yourself to grow. Find people who are your sunshine.

Especially when you battle with mental health issues, finding people who can make you feel safe, relaxed, and loves is a must. You don’t have to go through whatever it is alone. There are people out there that will care about you, help you, and give you their time.

Once you have found the beautiful humans that you click with, do everything you can to maintain a healthy relationship.